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Question by Amber Stewart: Friend issues, I need advice?
This is EXTREMELY LONG, bare with me. I’m extremely sorry it’s this long, but lots of crap has happened. This kinda goes back two years, and at first a few years, and has lots of detail, and I know I shouldn’t think about the past, but the past has to do with what’s happening now. I know that some of it is childish, and I do apologize for it.

I’m a Sophomore in high school now. Tori and I have been friends for nearly 7 years, and we’re both 16. The problem is her cousin Samantha. I know the first thing you’re going to say is ‘Blood is thicker than water,’ but this is different. Me and Tori met back in 4th grade, when we were around 8 or 9. Samantha and Tori have been cousins/friends since they were babies. We’re all the same age. When me and Tori met, Samantha didn’t like me at all, but somehow, when we were in fifth grade, I stayed at Tori’s and so did Samantha for some movie, and me and Samantha became friends then, at that time only because we liked the same music, which was Aly and AJ.

We stayed really good friends until eighth grade, when I realized that Samantha was really controlling, and she was a b**ch, because she always wanted to be the center of attention and thought everyone liked her, and used her mother. I met a friend in eighth grade named Kirstie, and told her about Samantha, and she told me to confront her about it, so I did, but I took it too far, and I kinda regret it. Me and Samantha continually argued and made up, and eventually I wanted revenge on her and wanted to ruin her life, because other friends agreed with me. I asked Tori if she agreed with me about Samantha, and she told me that she agreed to an extent, but Samantha was going to be Samantha, and warned me that I couldn’t change it. I didn’t listen to her, and continued to ‘hate’ Samantha, yet I was still talking to her. Finally, Samantha warned me that she was going to get back at me really hard, but we eventually ‘made up,’ but it’s been a nightmare for me.

We made up, and I think she really meant what she said when she said she was going to get back at me. I grew up, finally, and haven’t bothered her since, but I still think she has bad intentions. Ever since, I feel like she’s taking advantage of Tori, just to get back at me (keep in mind, Tori is a REAL follower). She excludes me from everything, and still says we’re friends. Her and Tori created secret Twitter accounts to communicate back and forth, and I found that out because I created one and searched them to see if they had Twitter accounts, and found that Samantha called me a dirty b**ch. I didn’t do it on purpose, and found that tweet just in time. Again, I know how childish it sounds. I also think this has to do with me not being really big Justin Bieber and Taylor Swift fans, and I know, that’s also childish. And when I complain about them ignoring me, then for a while she changes her attitude, and Tori went to the point of lying to me so her and Samantha could hang out. I complained about that, and finally Tori or Samantha plainly states it indirectly to me what they’re going to do. I really thought we made up.

Also, I think some of it has to do with me not being into Taylor Swift, Justin Bieber, Austin Mahone, and Cody Simpson. It’s really just Samantha, but Tori acts like she likes them (except she really does like Taylor Swift) just so Samantha doesn’t ditch her or get mad at her. (I know, I’m seething at this, too…) Samantha is a wannabe Justin Bieber/Austin Mahone/Cody Simpson girlfriend. 0.0 Again, that’s also childish… I’m beginning to wonder if I should be asking how to deal with immature friends, but I do respect their music taste, it’s just how Samantha carries herself on with it.

ALSO, sorry guys, this is the last paragraph, lol. Back then I thought that Samantha was manipulating Tori, because Tori was acting ‘different.’ She had a new, more negative attitude, and acts like she can’t trust me as well. She recently started drawing further and further away from me. Could it be that Samantha is manipulating Tori?

I just want to see what you think, and I’ve asked for advice for this before, but the answers I get is to not talk to Samantha, don’t be their friend, etc., but I want an answer that gives a full perspective of someone that isn’t going through it, or has went through it.

Thank you soo much!

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Answer by Meg
Wow, I’ve been through the same exact thing. The thing is, I just moved on, met new friends, and just forgot about them. I’m not exactly saying that’s what you should do but in the end things will work out. Maybe invite both of them to a movie or out to the mall or something and talk about it and work things out.
Hope this helps!

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Question by nonenonenone: My old best friend is telling my girlfriend that he loves her while im away at college. what do i do?
im away at college in a long distance rlationshipa dn recently he jsut took ehr ona trop to austin. she ignores anything i say or when i call and my odl best freind is taking advantage of my girlfriend. He also acts like the victim.

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Answer by well hung gimp
what do you do? College girls.

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Question by Deb: Help, what do I do when my best friend has completely taken advantage of me ?
My best friend (lynne) of 25yrs lives in Roatan Honduras and visits yearly and asks us to pay for the trip.They have no money and live there for health reasons(she is a breast cancer survivor) This year she asks to come June 10 – 27th. I told her that was a bad time for us, could she wait just one week. She said no that those days were cheapest. Then, while she is here she asks us to pay for a trip to go she her parents. I told her no then she went behind my back by calling my husband at work and gives him a sob story, then asks him for the miles. He did not know that I had already said no to her. Now, before going to see her parents she spends $ 2000.00 on clothes and i was really angry at this point. She stayed with them 5 days and returns to our home.Then the you know what hits the fan over and over again. We have 2 – 8 yr old grand kids, Destiny (my son’s) and Austin ( from our daughter-Rhiannon)) On this particular day they wanted to spend the night with us and Rhiannon said, “not tonight”. Austin told her that he felt like we did not like him anymore. Lynne then jumps up and shouts at him,”that is lie from the pit of hell.” He got so upset that she said that to him, he cried so much and was inconsoulable. Next Lynne tells Destiny to come inside with her where she asks Destiny how she would feel about me had I said they could spend the night. Lynne came back outside and told me that Destiny said she would not respect me if I had let them stay. I know Destiny so well and she would not have said that. So, I asked her and was said she didn’t say anything about me. For some reason Lynne lied to me. How can I continue this friendship, even her two sons will not talk to her. Believe it or not, I still love Lynne, right now i hate how she has treated my family. Help

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Answer by Jake Johnson Wilkins
I’m not reading that crap.

But if your friend is using you, then she is not really your friend at all.

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